Phil. 2:12

"Wherefore, my beloved, as ye have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling." Phil. 2:12

I notice here that Paul is praising the Philippians before he gives them an admonition. He is praising them for obeying even when he isn't present. I think we need to apply this to how we treat our children....praising them....especially before we give them a command....and also when they obey when we aren't around. Paul should be our "example".