There are a few families I know that have "homechurched" alone successfully, but the only ones who've been able to do this successfully that I can think of are the ones that have very strong father-led families and/or those who have kids that are not super in need of "social outlets"...
I think the ideal situation is a "homechurch" with several or more families where there are other teens with "like values".
From all that I've observed and heard, the most important ingredient in raising kids that turn out right is to have a father who is truly right with God....and a true servant/leader of his family, especially in spiritual things....Also one who truly has his children's hearts and open communication with them. This is why praying for our husbands is SO IMPORTANT!
From my experience, kids will usually follow their dads....especially as they enter the teen years. Dad's influence is paramount! So from my experience, the most important thing moms can do is to be submissive to their husbands and to reverence them and praise them whenever they do lead and do the right thing. Having open communication with the kids, not being fearful, influencing DH with genuine praise to lead and make the "right decisions" for the kids....and praying, praying, praying...are the things Mom should do for teens.
Here's my "two cents" worth about the right church for the kids.... IMO, kids need to be in a church where most or all of the people are upholding/living the standards and basic doctrines that you want to teach. They need other adults who will re-enforce the parent's teachings...and they need other youth who are spiritually strong to "lift them up" and not "drag them down". Unfortunately there aren't many churches like this. At least I don't know of ANY that really are what we have needed....
I don't have all the answers... But God is BIG. Praise His Name!
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